Girls Night In

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How to Be Afraid

on June 20, 2015

My niece is a make-up artist and hairstylist. She is gifted to create beauty. After high school, instead of college she went to beauty school. While she was in school and since she graduated she has been invited to work in fashion shows and fashion shoots all over the country. She has a bright future. Except for one thing. Since she graduated she has not taken her licensing exam. It has been scheduled and canceled several times.

She has been afraid.

She did not attend college because the thought of the SATs was too much for her. She simply could not bring herself to take the exam.

I urged her to be brave. To trust in God. All of her family did. We told her that she could do it, that even if she didn’t pass the first time she could take it again. We told her that there was nothing to fear. But still she was terrified.

image courtesy of David Castillo Dominici/

image courtesy of David Castillo Dominici/

Then her boyfriend (who is all of 21 years old) very calmly told her that she was letting her fear get in the way of her future. And between all of us supporting her, and her own desire to grab hold of her future, the last time the exam was scheduled, she went and sat through it.

During the test she was shaking. She felt sick. In the middle of the test she broke down and cried.

But she finished the exam.

I told her that no matter what the graders say, she passed the test.

Not only did she pass, but in my book she is in the 99th percentile, the highest 1% of us all. She is among those very few, very brave souls who face their deepest fears and push through.

I want that kind of courage!

How about you?

“When I am afraid, I will trust in you…In God I have put my trust; I will not fear.” Psalm 56:3-4


One response to “How to Be Afraid

  1. Carole Brown says:

    OH, the crippling effects of fear. I certainly sympathize with your niece. And Hurray for her! Good job.

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