Girls Night In

the blog for single, over-40 women

Do What Makes Your Soul Happy

on April 28, 2015

“We must not creep along when our souls cry out for us to soar.”                                                                                                                       ~Helen Keller

Over the years, I’ve met too many single women who are waiting for marriage to do all the things they plan to do. I have to admit that for many years, I was one of those people.

How many of you have been told that you will find Mr. Right when you stop looking for him? “Go take a class that interests you.” “Travel.” “Join a club.” These people will tell you that you’re more likely to find the right man if you are out there living your life.

Truth is I have fallen for this advice. I’ve taken classes, traveled (some) and joined clubs. All things I was interested in, but guess what!?! Yeah, no Mr. Right.

There have been times when bitterness has eaten away at me. I’ve been frustrated at all the money that I’ve spent without any sign of the elusive goal.

But there you have it, folks, the wrong reason for doing any of those things. If it’s simply to try to find a companion, you will be disappointed every time like I was with my endeavors. When I stopped focusing on whom I might meet and started anticipating what I might learn or experience, I had a whole lot more fun.

Trail Lincoln Boyhood 08

Several years ago, I ended up in southern Indiana by myself for a few days after spending time with family. I decided to venture out to visit Abraham Lincoln’s boyhood home. For several hours, I wandered the property, the visitor’s center, and the mile-long path that wound through the woods to a replica of what the farm was probably like in Lincoln’s time.

Cabin Lincoln Boyhood 08

Throughout my time there, couples and families passed me, but it seemed I was the only single one around. I didn’t let that stop me as I snapped pictures and stopped to smell the flowers.

Me Lincoln Boyhood 08

That day I learned some things about history and some things about myself.

But guess what!?!

I didn’t meet Mr. Right. Nope, not a single guy on the whole trip.

But that’s okay. The day made my soul happy. It was a great afternoon and inspired me to try more trips like this.

What do you do to make your soul happy?


2 responses to “Do What Makes Your Soul Happy

  1. nosyjosie says:

    I love this! I used to feel the same way when I would go places (where is he?! its no guys here!). Then one day I just made it about me – and it felt AMAZING. To make my soul happy, I plan dates with myself. This birthday weekend I’m going out of town to a beautiful “lodge” near the river to just write. Me, my laptop, wine, music, bubble bath, and netflix. My soul is happy just THINKING about it!

  2. It’s so freeing, Josie, when we give ourselves permission to enjoy our alone time! Happy birthday and enjoy your weekend!

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