Girls Night In

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Time for Gladness and Male Friends

on April 23, 2015

image courtesy of Stuart Miles/

I am in that last mad dash before school ends. Papers must be written, projects completed, and coursework studied for exams.

This year, though, it’s a little different for me because I am graduating! The strange part is that, though the celebrations have begun, though my graduation gown has been ordered and received, though I am two assignments away from completion, I don’t feel a sense of the occasion yet.

Maybe it’s that I have had so much school work to do and getting ahead of that is taking most of my attention.  Or it might be that things have been busy at church and I have been trying to stay on top of the classes to be taught, the children’s sermons to be preached, and the youth activities to be planned. It could be that I am really not sure how my next steps post-graduation are going to unfold. I am in the ordination process, but it’s a long one and, in the meantime, I will probably need to get some kind of job before I head back to South Africa (which is a whole OTHER story).

Mostly, though, I don’t think it’s any of that. I think my friend from South Africa is arriving within the week (!!), and it’s all I can do to think of anything else. I have to vacuum and dust because he’s coming.  I have to have my car’s interior waxed because he’s coming. I have to make sure all my schoolwork is done and out of the way because he’s coming. I have to review my wardrobe, make sure I’m groomed (I need a pedicure!), and put together a nice little welcome package to give to him when he arrives. I have to have ideas in mind of where to go for breakfast, coffee, lunch or dinner–he prefers super casual spots and no seafood. I have to not think about how I should’ve stuck to my diet.

He’s not my boyfriend. He’s just a friend. But you wouldn’t know it as excited as I am.

Is it a mark of unhealthy singleness when the thought of seeing a dear male friend eclipses (by a lot) the thought of other good things happening in my life? I don’t know. But his visit is a limited one, and that makes the time precious.

There is a time for everything. I will plan to get excited about graduation after he leaves. 🙂


3 responses to “Time for Gladness and Male Friends

  1. nosyjosie says:

    Congratulations on your approaching graduation! What is the official date? I remember feeling so overwhelmed with last minute assignments that I didn’t even take time to appreciate the moment. Don’t do that! Take a moment to pause and reflect on what God just helped you accomplish.

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