Girls Night In

the blog for single, over-40 women

Goodbye to All That

on April 9, 2015

Have you ever noticed that when women reach a certain age they tend to cut their hair and adopt short hairstyles? I have been observing this phenomenon for years.

It seems my time has come. This week I am cutting my hair. Doing “the big chop.”

For quite a while I have held off, instead choosing to wear extensions that make hair styling and maintenance a breeze.

Also, though, I’ve been subconsciously ruled by the notion that men would like me less if my hair was not long. Like Beyonce’s. You know what I’m talking about. Haven’t we all had to reckon with the barrage of media images that create standards for us of what beautiful looks like? Of what an over-40 body looks like?

As I prepare to transition from life as a student, I find internal transitions occurring as well. I find myself desiring to be seen as I am, without the adornments of youth. Loved as I am–forty-something with weaker eyes, thinner hair, fuller hips, greater grace, wider circles of love and deeper peace. I want to present to the world the true beauty of me.


Me sans extensions


Did you cut your hair short after a certain age? What went into your decision-making?



6 responses to “Goodbye to All That

  1. sharynkopf says:

    You are a true beauty, Leasey, no matter how long your hair is! Thank you for sharing this. 🙂

  2. I agree with Sharyn…you are beautiful no matter what.

    I haven’t adopted a shorter style yet simply because I feel more comfortable with my hair a little longer.

  3. nosyjosie says:

    Girl you are beautiful! It never fails to amaze me how beautiful we women look when we go back to our “natural” state in appearance. You look younger, more refreshed, and even more confident. I recently found myself in the same place as you, desiring to be seen as I am, without enhancements. My hair is thin, and I’m tired of adding things to it to make it more voluminous. My nails grow up a little instead of straight, and I’m tired of cutting them to the core to hide that. I’m loving Josie right now and Im SO happy that you are too!!

  4. Cheryl Evans says:

    I love short hair,cut mine at 40 an it’s been really short for 14years!

  5. Alease B. says:

    Thank you so much ladies! I’m going to be experimenting with my locs all summer I think before I settle on anything. I’m having a blast with it!!

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