Girls Night In

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Five Things People Should Know about Older Single Women

on March 24, 2015

As I’ve gotten older and remained unmarried, I’ve found there are a lot of misconceptions about singles my age. So, since I love lists, I’ve put together one of fove items I wish people knew about me and my cohorts.

Image: Public Domain/Creative Commons

Image: Public Domain/Creative Commons

  1. We may have gotten used to being alone, but we’d be comfortable being in a relationship. Some people think we’re set in our ways and, therefore, complacent about putting ourselves out there. While there may be some truth in that, the vast majority of us would be thrilled to share our day-to-day life with a partner.
  1. We may not have kids, but we can still love your kids. We thrill at being auntie to our nieces and nephews. We may not be used to the chaos and noise that accompanies kids, but we love to be included in it.
  1. We don’t really hate men. It’s easy to fall into the trap of dissing men when we get together, but most of us truly don’t hate them. We revel in their differentness. The dissing is usually the sign of a broken heart trying to heal.
  1. We don’t like having our life characterized as “easy” just because we don’t have a husband or children. Our constraints are different from those of married women, but our lives aren’t necessarily easier, or harder for that matter. What we have in freedom, we trade for the lack of a partner providing emotional, physical and financial support.
  1. We don’t want to be randomly set up with any single male friend you have just because “you’re both single.” Invite us both to a group event, but save the setups for people you think we have something in common with.

Other single, over-forty women may have some different things they would add to this list, but these are mine.

Won’t you join the conversation? What do you wish people knew about single women our age?


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