Girls Night In

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More Than We Can Bear

on January 16, 2015

Recently, a friend of mine shared some thoughts on Facebook that I appreciated so much, I thought I would share them here. Thank you, Bonnie Cozadd, for your words of wisdom!

David Castillo Dominici

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There’s a little standard saying that continues to make the rounds in times of trouble: “God will never give you more than you can handle.” Sounds good. Guess to some it sounds true as they tend to share it with others in a meaningful way to offer comfort.

The problem with this saying is it doesn’t tell the whole truth … the true-to-life, day-by-day, honest-to-goodness-reality-of-life truth.

What is that truth? God will give you more — much more — than you can handle. Why? Because if you could handle all of your problems yourself why would you need God? Only by relying on Him can you not only handle but also have victory over the hard times you will have in this life.

“All you need to remember is that God will never let you down; He’ll never let you be pushed past your limits; He’ll always be there to help you come through it” (1 Cor. 10:13b, The Message).

God loves us too much to leave us where we’re at. With His help we can be more than conquerors.

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I’m glad Bonnie wrote about this. To me, it was confirmation that I don’t have to feel guilty for those times when things did seem too hard. Those times when I prayed, “God, this is too much. I can’t handle it.”

What if, instead of looking at this from my perspective, I saw it from God’s? My perspective says I have to do it on my own. I shouldn’t bother God with my troubles unless absolutely necessary. But, perhaps, that’s exactly what He wants me to do.

Recently, my sister told me about a meltdown my young niece had. She didn’t get something she wanted, and she “handled” it by yelling and throwing things and falling completely out of control . Finally, my sister said, “Please tell me this is about more than not getting your way. What has upset you so much?” And, at last, my niece told her that a student had made fun of her at school. As soon as she let it go, she calmed down. 

Like a loving father, God doesn’t ask us to give Him the unbearable moments because He doesn’t think we can handle them. He asks us because we don’t have to do it alone. It is His joy to take those burdens from us.

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”                                                                                                                          ~Matthew 11:28-30

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