Girls Night In

the blog for single, over-40 women

A Boyfriend for Christmas

on December 2, 2014
Photo courtesy: feelart/

Photo courtesy: feelart/


There’s a Hallmark movie called A Boyfriend for Christmas. It’s the story of a young girl who tells Santa she wants a boyfriend for Christmas. Years later, when she’s given up on love, the doorbell rings and there is a handsome man with a Christmas tree who claims he’s her boyfriend and is a gift from Santa.

What a great idea — ask and it shall be given. Maybe not right away, but one day. Honestly, the thought did occur to my younger self more than once. There’s a certain appeal to the vision of cuddling with a cute boyfriend in front of a brightly lit tree, sharing the joy of Christmas.

The holiday season can certainly heighten the awareness of our single status. It is a time meant to be shared and enjoyed. At its very roots is love, so it’s understandable that we long more for the connection at this time of year.

As the season has started rolling in, something I’ve been hearing over and over is Emmanuel — God with Us. This name of Jesus forms the foundation of our Christmas celebration. It’s not a new term to me, but right now, it’s hitting a tender spot in my soul.

This past year has found me pondering the idea that maybe there isn’t a husband in my future. Maybe, just maybe, it’s God’s plan for me to be single. While a part of me screams, “Nooooooooo” at the very thought, another part of me is realizing that may be what God has in mind for me. And if that’s the case, I had better get used to the idea.

Finding my way through the emotions that come along with letting go of a dream has been hard, but the one thing I keep coming back to is that I am not alone in this. God is with me. Always with me. He’s been drawing me into a deeper place where I can take refuge in Him instead of a dream that may or may not be His plan for me.

I’ve known the name Emmanuel for years, but this year it has really come alive. It’s wrapped around my heart like a warm blanket. When I turn on the lights on my tree this year, instead of focusing on what I don’t have, I am reminded of what I do have … Emmanuel — God with Me. Really, it’s what I’ve been wishing for all those years –the comfort of being surrounded by a love so profound it gave everything it had to be with me.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: