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Does He Still Have His Teeth? – How Old is Too Old?

on October 28, 2014

“Not to be mean, but does he still have all of his teeth?”

Leave it to a friend to come up with something like that. We were sitting at Red Robin having lunch. The Thursday before this a bunch of single friends in their 30s and 40s discussed what age ranges we would date. The consensus seemed to be that about 5 years either way was probably good.

For me, though, I’ve not really wanted to put limitations based on age when it comes to older than me. I mean, I am almost 50 years old. That changes the game a little. I could easily say I don’t think I’d be comfortable dating a guy 15-20 years younger than me. I felt I could just as easily say that 10 years older really wasn’t that big of a deal.

Little did I know that the next week I was going to have that hypothesis tested. You know the story, a friend knows a guy …

She started with asking if I would consider someone 10 years older than me. And my first thought was, “That’s 60 years old!” As she described this godly man who lost his wife to cancer five years ago, I turned the idea over in my mind.

I was still pondering whether I wanted to crack this door open when the conversation at Red Robin took place. Later I decided that I needed to be as brave as I think I am in my brain and so I told my friend that I would be interested in meeting the guy if he was interested in meeting me.

As I considered this situation, I concluded that age shouldn’t be the deciding factor. It really should be more about whether a man and I are compatible. If we have absolutely nothing in common, the 10 year difference could be a relationship killer. On the other hand, if we click and enjoy each other’s company the age wouldn’t really be a big deal. The only way to know for sure would be to say I’d meet him and go from there.

So, I’m curious to hear from our readers. What do you think about dating someone older or younger than yourself?



Photo courtesy: olovedog/

Photo courtesy: olovedog/


4 responses to “Does He Still Have His Teeth? – How Old is Too Old?

  1. Carole Brown says:

    I agree, Tammie. Age shouldn’t play too much in the factor and compatibility should. I think you made a wise choice. 🙂

  2. kimmesser says:

    I have been pleasantly surprised in love even with a dramatic age difference. I think that we have to let go of our ideal image of a man or someone we might see ourselves with and expand our vision.

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