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The Calling No One Wants

on July 18, 2014
The Calling

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One of the questions writers are often asked is, “Do you feel called to write?” Lately, I’ve noticed people responding with something along the lines of, “Well, I don’t know yet. I guess we’ll find out if my book gets published and it sells.” Implying that success alone proves it was a calling. So, if they’re not successful, then what? It was more of a suggestion than a calling?

As a writer I have a problem with this. I believe I was called to write even though I have yet to see any real success — certainly not financial anyway. In fact, I believe God asked me to write with the caveat that He wasn’t promising me a bestseller or even that one person would read it. The calling was, “Will you write what I ask you to write, regardless of what I choose to do with your work?”

And when I said, “yes,” He suggested I write about my singleness.

Not quite what I had in mind. Why would I want to write about my deepest wound? All my life, in fact, I’d dreamed of being a romance novelist. Kind of the opposite of writing about grieving spinsterhood.

As I’m sure you can imagine, I didn’t exactly jump at the chance. I fought it. Not only did I not want to talk about being single, but I didn’t even know what to say. I hadn’t reached a place of healing yet. I wasn’t even close.  What would I write? “Yeah, it stinks but at least we can slog through the muck together”?

It took seven years of scribbling words out of hurt and confusion for me to get it. Recently, a friend shared this quote on Facebook:

“God often uses our deepest pain as the launching pad of our greatest calling.”

In other words, He just might ask us to do the last thing we would ever dream of doing. Without any guarantee of the outcome.

And when He does … how will you respond?


2 responses to “The Calling No One Wants

  1. Carole Brown says:

    Yes, I always loved the thought: God doesn’t call us to be successful, just faithful. 🙂 Good post.

    • sharynkopf says:

      Which can be a hard lesson to learn. We so want there to be great meaning to our work but we tend to determine our success according to earthly standards, not heavenly ones.

      Thank you for your comments, Carole!

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