Girls Night In

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Older Women

on July 17, 2014

I have had the most striking experience here at my church in Cape Town. I’ve been adopted by the older women of the congregation. The verse in Titus that tells older women to help train and guide the younger women has been made real to me.


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Over the course of the summer, different women have taken time to get to know me and — over lunch or dinner or tea — have discreetly given me the lowdown on the men around the church. They have said things like, “You are such a lovely person. A good number of women have been hurt by men who come to our church. Sometimes it happens like this … Please be careful. I don’t want to see you get hurt too.”

Never, not ever, have I experienced older women in the church drawing close to me as a single woman to give me guidance and advice about love relationships, or to give me insight into the men who are around.

How amazing and wonderful!

Particularly because these women are older in the Lord and understand a little better about human frailty. They know how to love and to speak lovingly about men, but at the same time speak clearly about the struggles these men may have had.

I’ve decided that, by God’s grace, I am going to be like them when I grow up!

Now you tell me — is this a South African thing? Or are there singles out there who have been blessed to experience the friendship and counsel of older women in the church with respect to love relationships?


2 responses to “Older Women

  1. Carole Brown says:

    lovely! You are blest.

  2. aleaseb says:

    Indeed Carole! Thanks!

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