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Have You Asked God to Bless Your Plans When You Knew They Were Wrong?

on May 27, 2014
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In the 90s, I dated a guy for quite a few months. I knew from the start there were problems, but I chose to ignore them. As time went on, it became very apparent that this wasnt a good relationship. I still chose to ignore the signs.

Instead of taking a good look at the relationship and doing what I knew was the right thing, I went to the Lord in prayer. My cries were for Him to fix the problems. To miraculously make this mess the perfect love story He had for me. What I was thinking I dont know, but thats another story.

Years later I did an inductive Bible study on the book of Genesis and Kay Arthur did a series of lectures on the book. In one lecture, Kay talked about Ishmael and Isaac. We all know the story: God promised Abraham that he would be the father of nations, but then God was slow in making that happen. Dont you love how we say God was slow when things don’t happen in our time frame? God promised, but He didn’t say when this was going to happen.

So, Abraham and Sarah decided it was taking too long and they made their own plan. Abraham and Sarahs maid, Hagar, had a baby together. They hoped God would bless Ishmael and let him be the start of the nations. This wasnt Gods plan and it created more problems than it was meant to solve.

Kay explained how we like to imitate Abraham and Sarah. We create our own Ishmaels and then take them to God for blessing. Thats what I did with my relationship in the 90s. I created an Ishmael. Even though I knew this wasnt the plan God had for my married life, I took my Ishmael and asked God to call it an Isaac.

Just as God did with Abraham and Sarah, He refused to bless my Ishmael. Quite honestly, Im thankful He was insistent on not blessing this scheme of mine. I still dont know when my Isaac will happen in this regard, but God rescued me from the Ishmael I created and put me back on the right track.

Are there times in your dating life when youve tried to make a situation fit your dream? Have you created Ishmaels?


5 responses to “Have You Asked God to Bless Your Plans When You Knew They Were Wrong?

  1. Carole Brown says:

    Such a great post, Tammie! How selfish and self-absorbed in our wants and desires we can be at times. So glad you came thru that time.

  2. sharynkopf says:

    That’s a great way to put it, Tammie, & definitely something I’ve done … over & over again. Thank you for sharing.

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