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Who Has Control of Your Life?

on May 2, 2014

Image courtesy of sakhorn38/

I am frustrated by my limitations.

For instance, I can’t make someone give me a job, even when I desperately need the income.

No matter how hard I work at my book manuscripts or the public speaking ministry I hope to grow, I cannot wave a magic wand and make any of these endeavors a success.

Like it or not, I will continue to get older, with more wrinkles and age spots and gray hairs on top of my head and little ones on my chin — all leading to more comments about how “it’s what’s on the inside that counts.”

And I cannot make someone fall in love with me. 

But there are things in my control. My weight, for instance. I know how to eat right and that I need more exercise. Yet I often find myself acting like my chubbiness is something that happened to me, not something I did to myself. Instead of making smarter choices, I give in to the craving of the moment as if I am powerless to say no. So I eat what I don’t need when I’m not hungry, then boo-hoo over pictures that “make me look fat.”

Can I find the power within me to change? I’d like to think so. To undo years of bad habits and replace them with actions that will improve my life won’t be easy, but that’s not the point.

We don’t — or shouldn’t — make wise decisions because they’re easy. We make wise decisions because to do otherwise makes a waste of the years God has given us. Our existence on this earth lasts only a moment, as long as it takes a leaf to fall to the ground:

For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away. — James 4:14b

Of course, this particular change must go further and deeper than eating right and exercising regularly. All the areas of my life where I make excuses for bad choices must be reconsidered. God doesn’t ask me to make the best of the years He has given me. He expects it.

For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s. — 1 Cor. 6:20

And that includes not just how I take care of myself but every aspect of my life — my career, my singleness, my desire to stuff myself with chocolate every chance I get.

So when I start feeling frustrated by my limitations, perhaps I would do well to remember God is in control and “with God all things are possible.”


One response to “Who Has Control of Your Life?

  1. Carole Brown says:

    Well said, Sharyn! Discipline and taking matters into our own hands is vital if we are to have a life of health and other seriously important matters. It’s hard, for me, and I suppose for most. I think sometimes its a frame of mind, and of course, seeking help. 🙂 Thanks!

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