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In Summer – When Singles Get Caught Up in the Lovely Dream of Marriage

on March 25, 2014

Have you seen the new movie Frozen? It’s the story of young girl who has the powerful ability to create snow and ice. Many people haven’t been able to resist joining Elsa as she sings about finally letting go and allowing her power to run rampant.

But another song caught my attention.

Elsa uses her power to create an adorable snowman named Olaf. He adds some comic relief to the movie and whispers the amazing line of “some people are worth melting for.” But for me, the part of Olaf’s story that speaks to me the most is his love of summer.

Did I say that Olaf is a snowman? Yeah, a snowman who has never experienced summer but loves the idea of it — the sun and all things hot just thrill him.

Kristoff sarcastically says, “I’m guessing you don’t have much experience with heat.”

Olaf responds, “Nope. But sometimes I like to close my eyes and imagine. . . .”

I’m a lot like Olaf. I love the idea of marriage. Thing is, I don’t have much experience with it. So it’s quite possible I have an idealized view of what marriage is all about. Because, as Olaf says, I’ll be so much cooler in summer — um, marriage.

There’s a line in the song that says:

“When life gets rough,
I like to hold to my dream,
of relaxing in the summer sun …”

Have you been there? I know I have. Life goes crazy and it’s easy to imagine how much easier it would be if we were married.

Olaf’s happy little song hints at all the things that can go wrong with a snowman in summer — specifically, melting. He joyfully ignores the implication because he has never experienced summer and so it all seems lovely.

We single people can do that also. Our married friends have told us how hard marriage can be, and we’ve probably witnessed the tough times first-hand. But we skip along, thinking how lovely marriage will be, focusing on that and forgetting the work that will be involved.

Now, I’m not saying that we over-forty single people aren’t meant for marriage as Olaf isn’t meant for summer. It’s just so easy for us to have a skewed view of what our life would be like if we were married. Sometimes we need a Kristoff to say, “I’m gonna tell him.”

When Elsa finally learns to control her power, she realizes Olaf needs his own flurry cloud to keep him comfortably frozen in summer.

We singles need to figure out what our flurry cloud is. So, when the time comes to walk down the aisle, we’ll be more prepared for the things in marriage that may threaten to melt us.



2 responses to “In Summer – When Singles Get Caught Up in the Lovely Dream of Marriage

  1. Carole Brown says:

    That’s beautiful, and I’m so like that with many things. In my opin, to make a life, married or not, work, we have to WORK at it. No matter what situation we won’t glide thru. Hubby and I definitely have our disagreeing moments, but as he reached for my finger to give me a “finger hug” Sunday in the car, we agreed we still have a strong relationship. We’ve worked hard at it. Lovely, lovely post.

  2. Carole, thanks for visiting. I find we humans can get caught up in the idea of just about anything we’ve not experienced. Then we’re surprised when things don’t go like we thought they would. Must be part of human nature.

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