Girls Night In

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Valentine’s Day Hope

on February 13, 2014

heart-tree-in-the-water-can-100133974Because I so love Love, and because I so look forward to all of my friends (including you) falling into the loving relationships they have been waiting for, I would like to offer a word of encouragement on this Valentine’s Day Eve.

Please, please, please do not lose hope. I know it has been a long time–a very long time–that you have been waiting. I know you have hoped and prayed and been lonely, disappointed and heartbroken over the years. I know how frustrating and downright scary it can be to continue to hope that love might yet happen.

Nonetheless, I plead with you to let hope live.

Because my sense is that the death of this hoped-for-love is not about love as much as it is about Jesus. To stop trusting Jesus with this, to give up, to believe in our hearts that God cannot or will not bring a loving man into our lives, is to give up on God. It is a lack of belief that is nothing less than a crisis of faith.

What we desire in marriage is not about lust or pride or the love of money. Our desire for loving husbands is holy and good. And our good and holy desires do not originate with us, but come from the Lord who gives us the desires that are in our hearts. As much as you want a wonderful love story, God wants it for you even more!

Your reality will argue strongly that this is not true. That God is obviously indifferent or even against you being married. I urge you, though, to stop believing what you see and to keep believing God. Believe that God is ridiculously crazy about you. That He would never, not ever, withhold a good thing–like marriage–from you, but will freely give it to you. That God will do what you ask of Him in Jesus’s name. That even though it’s been a long, long journey, God is still able to do in your life exceedingly more than anything you could ask or imagine. Believe God.

You will almost certainly have to wait a bit more. But your waiting should not be like waiting for, say, a war to end. Something that, though you would really like it to happen, you have no control over it and it’s probably not going to happen anytime soon, so you don’t give it too much thought because you’ve got other important things going on in your life, but you do pray and hope it occurs. Someday.

No. The waiting that we are called to is more like the wait to buy a house. First, we decide we really want to own a home. Then we hire a realtor and peruse houses online. We get our credit history—and deal with whatever needs to be dealt with. We look and pray and pray even more, and wait expectantly for the right house, at the right price, in the right neighborhood to come to us.

Let’s wait expectantly, allowing God to pull our “love history” and help us deal with whatever is found there so we can confidently enter into all of the various kinds of love that God has in store for us.   love-birds-design-100134801

Against all hope, Abraham in hope believed and so became the father of many nations. . . . Without weakening in his faith, he faced the fact that his body was as good as dead—since he was about a hundred years old—and that Sarah’s womb was also dead. Yet he did not waver through unbelief regarding the promise of God, but was strengthened in his faith and gave glory to God, being fully persuaded that God had power to do what He had promised.
                                                                              ~Romans 4:18-21


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